You may be asking yourself, what is SMARMY? Well it’s one of my new favorite words. Not only is it useful to understand a behavior, but it is also fun to say. Let’s say it together SMARMY.
This is really a cautionary tale for everyone. You may be in a job which requires you to attend endless functions, many times on task to make connection with an individual who represents a business you want to connect with, or a business you are asking for a donation from. Either way endless networking, schmoozing and socializing may cause you to put on a false front or be SMARMY.
Our good friends at Merriam-Webster have defined SMARMY
behaving in a way that seems polite, kind, or pleasing but is not genuine or believable
So it would suffice to say – SMARMY is the opposite of genuine. In this age of connectivity, it is easy to disconnect and be superficial providing a false front of what you think people want to see, read or hear.
Be bona fide and you will no doubt attract the same. JUST SAY NO TO SMARMY 🙂
You’ve met the type. They volunteer, not just for one thing, but usually for multiple ones. Their plate is full of family, work, or social activities. Maybe you can relate! For a person who is used to saying yes to additional activities, the idea of saying no seems unthinkable, foreign, or just plain wrong.
Well here’s the newsflash!
Saying yes to saying NO is necessary.
One thing my father told me when I went off to college was BALANCE. Don’t study all the the time, don’t play all the time. Many times doing too much good is bad because usually something else suffers because of it. Over committing yourself at work, home, or volunteering throws everything out of balance. Serving on too many volunteers boards, or doing too much work for free is also bad – especially if your clients or families or your health suffers because of it.
What is the most important thing in your life?
It may be ONE THING
You may still be figuring out what that is – and if you need a little help – City Slickers might be the movie you need to see.
Curly: “Do you know what the secret of life is?”
[He holds up one finger]
Mitch: “Your finger?”
Curly: “One thing. Just one thing. You stick to that and the rest don’t mean s–t.”
Mitch: “But what is the one thing?”
Curly: [smiles] “That’s what you have to find out.”
The truth of the matter is if you are saying yes instead of saying no to things which directly negatively impact your 1 or 10 things, you are doing yourself a horrible wrong.
So I leave you with a challenge – before you commit to adding one more thing to your day, your to do list, your busy – think long and hard how about the ripple effect. It may not be such a big thing – but it is one more thing.
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